Flying Sikh

'Bhag Milkha Bhag’ (Run Milkha Run) is an inspiring movie from Bollywood, besides entertaining. The story of Milkha, who broke world record in 400m race more than five decades ago and was conferred the title of ‘Flying Sikh’ by the then President of Pakistan, has remained largely unknown to Indian youth till now. Milkha achieved great success in life – not despite the challenges, but because of the challenges. He emerged stronger after each challenge. He bounced back higher after each fall. We have a lot to learn from his life story.

Firstly, great people are as vulnerable as we are. They too fail and fail worse than we can imagine. But, the big difference is that they don’t give-up. Indeed, they come-up with a stronger resolve. Then, they invest heavily in their mind-training. Milkha used to visualize winning the race just before starting. The reason he lost in the 1960 Olymics in Rome by a photo-finish only because he allowed his mind to interrupt this vision by looking backward just before hitting the rope. ‘Forgiving and forgetting the past is the best way forward’ is another lesson beautifully depicted in his story. He learnt that people actually are not bad, they are simply victims of circumstances. Success often gets to heads. Not in case of Milkha, who returned to show his sincere regards and appreciation to the first coach who had kicked his butts to push him beyond his limits. Success couldn’t even dilute his feelings towards a childhood buddy in humble state, whom he met in Pakistan after attaining world-wide recognition. He didn’t forget the pain endured by his big sis who sacrificed much for his success and rushed back to adorn her with his prized possession – ‘Indian Blazer’ and a pair of earrings that she had sold to get him out of jail in his struggling days. Milkha truly showed us how to become synonymous with our country’s name.

Essence of Fasting

I concur with the views of K. M. Zubair expressed in his article, “Blessings of Ramadan” (KT, July 9, 2013). Fasting is not merely abstaining from food and drink and cause a self-torture. Its essence lies in bringing one near to God.

When we forcibly deny ourselves the food and drink, the mind invariably runs towards the food and drink, thus causing physical and mental discomfort. In this condition, we anxiously wait for the time to break the fast and over-indulge in the eating soon thereafter, often resulting in stomach upset. Thus, we neither enjoy the time of fasting nor the time thereafter.

We are where our mind is. So, the key to a fruitful fasting is in the mind-training. When the mind is tuned in the thoughts of divinity, it is automatically disconnected from the physical needs and worldly pleasures. Watch a painter or a singer absorbed in his/her act. They forget to take a break even for rest, what to talk of food. Fasting simply happens to them. May the fasting open-up inner doors of divine joys in all of us! Ramadan Kareem.

Unfinished Books

Cheer up, Indrajit Hazra! You are not alone with the unfinished books (Last Laugh, June 14). I too have many half-read books lying all around in the house. I bought these with great enthusiasm from airports, train stations and bookshops in malls (while my family was busy shopping elsewhere). I was attracted to them either because of a review or the synopsis written on the back. I start reading the newly purchased book almost instantaneously and carry on during the entire journey. But, once home, priority shifts.

 

No doubt, they are all good books with power to transform one’s thinking and life. But I am afflicted with the problem of plenty. Which one to finish first is my dilemma. I tried to address this problem by strategically placing them at various locations in the house: serious stuff near the study table, light ones near the TV couch, uplifting ones on the bedside tables... But even that didn’t work as there was more than one choice at every location.

 

Of late, I have reconciled to the fact that it is the depth that matters, not the spread. Now, I randomly pick any book whenever I am in the mood for reading and am satisfied after reading just one chapter or even one page, as long as I have enjoyed doing so. Never mind the multitasking that my mind has to do in keeping track of continuity with all of them.



Enable Anti-virus Guard

We are like computer, processing much data and many tasks at the same time. However, just as a computer gets infected with viruses, we also get infected with unnecessary desires and lose our mental sanity. We cannot differentiate between real needs and greed. Anything that tempts the mind becomes our need. Again, just as an antivirus guard can protect a computer, our conscience can also protect us from all the unnecessary diversions in the life. But, our problem is we have disabled this antivirus guard in us. If only we refer to our conscience before taking any step, life would be a journey of joy.

I am reminded of a story. Once, in a Tibetan monastery, a monk approached his master with a request for a new cloth. Master asked, “What did you do with the old one?” He replied, “It was soiled and torn, so I made a curtain out of it.” Master asked, “What happened to the curtain?” The monk replied, “It was also soiled and torn, so I made a dusting cloth out of it.” The master pursued, “What happened to the dusting cloth?” The monk concluded, “It is now being used as a wick in an oil lamp.” Need we say more about the recycling?

Drawn to the Virtual World

The virtual world seems to have gained more power than the real one. Why is it that we are helplessly drawn towards the virtual world? Not only the youth of today, even aged ones spend more time in the virtual world than in the real one.

Perhaps, the reason lies in human psyche. Our mind is constantly trying to escape from the reality, unless controlled and guided with a specific purpose in life. Can you think of indulging in the virtual world when the house is on fire? But, without a definite goal and plan, we have lots of time to spend. The virtual world then becomes handy. It can give you false sense of being busy with some important intellectual work. You start looking at info that you never intended to find. You develop a variety of digital interest that titillates the mind and keeps it occupied, without ever touching your heart. Text overtakes sound and emoticons replace real emotions. You make thousands of friends without ever making even a hand-shake. You are no longer worried about hurting someone or stepping on someone’s toes. You are king of this virtual kingdom, which you keep expanding with a sense of victory. No threat, no challenge, no embarrassment, and no pressure of achieving anything ‘real’. Mind just loves it and can’t do without it even for a minute.

Like any other discovery of Science, this virtual world is also useful – extremely useful. But, the question is, “Does your mind take you there, or you take your mind there with a purpose and maintain control over its activities, without forgetting your role in the real world?”

The Gandhi Effect

“The Gandhi effect” by Rahul Singh (KT, April 4, 2013) caused a deep resonance in my mind. His association with the crew of the great film “Gandhi” by Richard Attenborough brought out some of the unknown anecdotes, which were inspiring. Gandhi always lived by setting examples for others. He would often say, “In order to transform others, you have first to transform yourself.” His life was an unending series of experimentation. No wonder his autobiography is titled, “My Experiments with Truth.” Evil, injustice, hatred, Gandhi argued, exist only insofar as we support them; they have no existence of their own. Without our cooperation, unintentional or intentional, injustice cannot continue.

I wish to share an incident from Gandhi’s life that I once read:

A skeptical crowd of Pathans with their guns slung over their shoulders gathered to watch the little figure in his loincloth get up before them in the North-west Frontier Province of India, among the rugged mountains near the Khyber Pass.

“Are you afraid?” he asked them gently. “Why else would you be carrying guns?” They just stared at him, stunned. No one had ever dared to speak to them like this before. “I have no fear,” Gandhi went on; “that is why I am unarmed. This is what Ahimsa means.” Abdul Ghaffar Khan (later came to be known as ‘Frontier Gandhi’) threw away his gun, and the Pathans, following his leadership, became some of the most courageous followers of Gandhi’s way of love.

Living by Experiences or Beliefs?

Do we live by our own experiences or beliefs? We seem to be carrying all sorts of beliefs throughout our lives. Perhaps, it is required to carry certain beliefs about certain things, which we don’t know for sure. But should they be allowed to influence our living?

Beliefs are what we hear from others and read from books and accept them as truths merely based on the authenticity of the source. Many troubles in our personal lives and in the world are created due to such beliefs. What we hear from others and read from books may have been others’ experiences. But to accept them as truths is turning them into mere superstitions, which we follow out of fear or reverence, not an inner conviction. Living by such beliefs is like riding a paper boat, which can sink at any time. We never get a totality view of the truth and hence are prone to falter in our actions. There is no inner growth following such beliefs. Even worse, following such beliefs may turn us into hypocrites.

Experiences, on the other hand, are what we get by living those moments. The knowledge and insight gained through experiences provide inner conviction and certainty about the fact. We never doubt what we know through our experiences. We can say that we ‘know’, not merely ‘believe’. This brings confidence and clarity in our thoughts and actions. If life is a river, experiences are its streams helping us to grow internally. We can realize our full potential in life only through experiences.

This does not mean we should stop believing in what we hear or read, especially from authentic sources, e.g. scriptures, famous writers, self-made successful personalities, etc. However, we should take them as hypotheses at first and then test in our own lives. What we get through testing these hypotheses would be our own truths, not borrowed ones. This is how we really benefit from others’ experiences. Isaac Newton once said, “If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.” Once a truth is internalized, it shapes our thoughts and actions effortlessly forever. Since truth is the same for all, it can never bring harm to any. May the living by our own experiences be the only way forward.