Dealing with Decision Dilemma

Every decision shapes our future. However, we often face situations where decision making becomes very difficult and we are not sure if the decision taken is correct. We are caught up in the decision dilemma. Recently, I came across a talk that gave a practical approach to solve this dilemma. Here, I share my understanding of this approach.

1.     Decide to Challenge

Most of us live our lives like a traveler who doesn’t know from where he came, where he is going and why is he on the train. We simply follow others like herds of cattle. So, the first thing one has to do is to challenge the ‘status quo’ and other’s definition of success. You must find your own definition of success. You must pause and ask: “What is it that will give me ultimate fulfilment and happiness in life?” Look around and check if those, who have reached the top of their respective career following common belief of success, enjoy ultimate fulfilment and happiness. It is possible that you may not figure it out on your own.

2.     Decide to Consult

It is time to look for external help. This help may come from reading inspiring books, listening to motivational talks, or consulting someone who radiates happiness around. Such reading and consulting will open your eye of wisdom through which you can clearly see your ultimate goal in life. Maintain this relationship with books and mentors throughout your life.

3.     Decide to Connect

Having defined the ultimate goal of life, take every decision that is connected with this goal. This is the best use of your available time, energy and resources. Don’t give up what you want most for what feels good now. Temptations born out of old habits will lure you towards immediate pleasures, thus draining your precious limited assets. However, your conviction on the ultimate goal will help you steer out of such pitfalls. Test every decision by asking: “Will it help me move towards my goal?”

4.     Decide to be Courageous

Drop all doubts, hesitations, fear and anxiety while pursuing your goal. Once you mentally surrender to the goal, you will be filled with the required courage to overcome all barriers. Take risk, if you must, to progress on the path. Enjoy the thrill of breaking out of your comfort zone. Every time you step out of your comfort zone, you get stronger and matured. Life will continuously test your strength by posing challenges on the way. Reward of winning a challenge is a bigger challenge. A player wins a tournament by consistently winning over increasing challenges through the tournament. Play the game of life in this spirit while enjoying every challenge.